Mummy managed to meet Ryan's K1 form teacher for the first time today. First greeting: Mrs Teo, can I speak to you for a moment? (didn't sound pleasant at all :p)
Teacher: Mrs Teo, I need your help. Ryan has behaviour problem in class. He loves to cry. When he beats people, can. When people beat him back, he cannot.
Mummy: Have you tried to discipline him? Like a notti-corner or something? His previous teacher has handled him quite well. You may want to talk Teacher XX (she has been transfered to a new centre)
Teacher: I know. But he is not a N2 anymore, you know. He cannot behave like one. Also, I got no time to handle him alone. To be fair, I need to spend my time on other kids also. He also likes to run around during class. I asked him to write, he will write half way and start to run around to disturb others.
Mummy: How do you want me to help?
Teacher: You can help teach him to behave lah. He is already K1, cannot behave like a N2.
Mummy: Ok, I'll try.
Frankly, I was already boiling mad inside after the conversation. It is undeniable that Ryan is playful and can be a handful to handle. But how a child behave in the class should be the teacher's responsibility, isn't it? I can only warn and remind him of the preferred behaviour. During class, the teacher has to set and enforce her class rules, not the parents! What does she want me to do? Join her class with a cane on my hand, sit besides Ryan???
'Best' part is when she mentioned she got no time to handle this wild kid cos she needs to spend her time on others. Of course! I'm not paying for a one-to-one class. But at the least bit, she should HANDLE her class as a whole, just like what other teachers have done. Cannot understand why all previous teachers have no such problem but her. SO MADDENING!
Also, Ryan has turned 4 years old a couple of months ago. In term of development, he is practically still a Nursery toddler! Her constant mention that Ryan is a K1, not N2 anymore, really pissed me off! What Attitute!!!
Anyway, mummy never let Ryan off so easily. Ryan was made to stand at door gate for a whole hour before he was allowed for dinner and bath. Then he continued the isolation in the house near the gate. Well, lots of bawling and begging expected. But mummy insisted and Ryan did manage to complete the timed-out.
After, Ryan was drilled in with these 2 procodures:
1) should the classmates push or hit him, cannot retaliate. Run to teacher and inform her of the 'disturbance'.
2) during lesson time, must sit down and finish the worksheet. cannot run around.
Mummy made him repeat and enact the procedures many times. Hopefully he could response in the preferred way. Sigh! Really, what can a parent do to make such young kid behave in class when the parent him/herself is not at the place to monitor?
Am I wrong to think that this should be the teacher's responsibilty?
This is my first time... please, anyone can enlighten me?
Monday, January 7, 2008
Complaint from teacher >_<
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4 comments:
i think n think.. then i think 1 hour is too long right? at the gate some more... but hor he does not have a room to be banised to haha~ so gate will do.
i agree that this form teacher also have to bear some responsibility since she is in class with ryan during the day. maybe tell her to put ryan at the nottie corner as what u have been doing at home. Also tell u how ryan behave today. if he is nottie; like bully pple, not paying attention etc then at home u will punish him. Of cos if he behaves also must reward him lah.
One of my gf always in contact with her kids' teachers so wat ever small little things she will know so her kids cannot bluff her. And sometimes the kids are surprise how come she knows wat is happening in school/class. Of course she did not let them know she talked to their teachers lah.
You try this and see how it goes lor.
Sigh, sometimes it does make me wonder if this is too destructive. But Ryan has such short memory that usually after the isolation, he is chatty again. trying to please me. Chey! However, this still does help to deter his bad behaviour. So shall monitor how long can this magic last :P
Also, I did suggest a Notti-Corner. But this teacher said she has no time to jar-gar. FAINTZ!
put nottie corner away fm the grp but within her eye sight lor.. aiya its wan or dun wanna do nia lah.
U tell the teacher, she have to work WITH u, not leave u to tame Ryan since he is in school most of the time. Wat u preach at home make sure its carried out in school, vice versa too. otherwise how to tame this little lion?
Precisely!! This is what the previous teachers did. This new teacher really got the dun-care-less attitute. really angry & disappointed lor :X Anyway, will find chance to talk to the principal - also a new one, old one transfered to new centre liao! FAINTZZZZZ. Sigh!
Ah ya, Ryan at fault lah. Little lamb at home, a lion at school. Hahaha... (ryan borns in year of Ram)
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